How many times have you seen a beautiful woman you wanted to meet, and not approached her because you didn’t know what to do or what to say? Well, say goodbye to those awkward moments. Here are three crucial things you need to know about approaching beautiful women so when the next opportunity arises, you’ll know exactly what to do.
To understand why this works you must first understand one of the fundamental fears women have: the fear of meeting a creep or potentially dangerous psycho. This fear can be so pervasive in our culture that some women only date friends of friends, who come pre-approved by people they know.
The good news is single women WANT attractive guys to approach them. How do we know this? We asked hundreds of women and they confessed this to us:
“She’s not rejecting you; she’s rejecting your approach.”
Essentially, if you come across as NOT creepy, and NOT psycho, you’ve already won half the battle. So what’s the secret to disarming her creep/psycho filter?
Step 1: Have Good Energy
Emotions travel from one person to another like Wi-Fi internet signals. If you’ve ever felt embarrassed for a friend or scared/excited by a movie, you’ve probably felt this effect. When you perceive a person as high strung, chilled-out, or angry, you perceive the emotional energy they are broadcasting to the world.
Energy isn’t a fuzzy new age concept, it’s a combination of 3 specific behaviors you can control. But for now, understand that because women are generally more empathetic than men, they can be highly sensitive to the emotional energy you broadcast. This means that broadcasting the right energy is crucial.
The ideal energy to broadcast to a woman you approach is friendly and relaxed. If you know how to broadcast this energy toward the women you meet, they are more likely to feel friendly and relaxed around you, and to perceive you as attractive. If you feel nervous or awkward when approaching a beautiful woman, she’ll be more likely to feel nervous and awkward around you, and see you as unattractive.
If feeling relaxed and friendly around stunningly beautiful women is hard for you, you may want to consider a 3 Skills membership. As a 3 Skills member you’ll get access to in-depth modules with step-by-step video examples of exactly how to convey this ideal energy when talking to women. You’ll also learn techniques supported by decades of research to decrease your nervousness and increase your confidence.
2: Be Socially Relevant
Once you’ve approached a woman in a friendly and relaxed way, what do you say to her? After all, you could still be a creep or psycho, and just happen to be a friendly one. The secret to getting past the second part of her creep/psycho filter is social relevance.
Social relevance involves understanding the purpose of the social situation you are in. Men who don’t understand social relevance often come across as socially awkward. For example, at a book store, reading or talking to someone about an interesting book is socially relevant. Walking up to a woman and saying “You’re so beautiful!”… Not so much. The closer you align your approach with the social purpose of the situation you are in, the more normal and sane you appear.
When you approach a woman, here are some socially relevant things you can say in different environments.
Walk up to the girl(s) in a friendly relaxed way, hold up your drink and say:
(you can switch out the word “Friday” with the night of the week you’re out).
The purpose of the situation, in this case a bar/club, is to have fun. People go out to enjoy themselves and possibly meet people. So the reason saying something like this works is because you’ve aligned yourself with the purpose of the situation: Fun.
You can come up with many more yourself. Here are a few more to get you started:
Notice, in a bar, people are trying to have FUN, so if you talk about it in a friendly and relaxed way, it’s socially relevant. Meeting friendly people is FUN, getting compliments is FUN. Meeting nervous people? That’s not fun, just creepy and weird.
On the street:
When you’re on the street, it’s not so common to approach a woman directly. So to avoid coming across like you’re trying to sell her something, adding the lines “I know this is random” signals that you are aware of the social norms in this situation.
Here’s another socially relevant approach on the street:
Once you understand social relevance, it’s much easier to determine “what to say” in pretty much any social situation. Once you internalize it, it will seem so obvious; you might even find it difficult to remember a time when you didn’t know this.
So, with friendly and relaxed energy, and social relevance, the next thing you need is to connect with her emotionally, be fun and interesting, and turn her on. If you’re not sure how to do that, you may want to subscribe to The 3 Skills course, a groundbreaking subscription course that helps men master dating best practices. The 3 Skills breaks down live unscripted video interactions step by step. Watch & learn what works, and what women love, from Superdaters (men who have slept with hundreds of women), top dating coaches, and PhD researchers. To learn more, click here.
Oh, and by the way, the third crucial thing you need to do when you approach?