So if you’ve had enough of being seen as “Just friends”, going to sleep alone, getting rejected, or just going on dates that go nowhere, you’ll want to watch this video on how to get a girlfriend all the way to the end.

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And for those of you who are new to our videos, the information from the three skills has been vetted by Superdaters, Leading PhD Researchers in the field of mate selection, and hundreds of real women. We do our homework to bring you only the most effective dating advice.

Which interaction is better?

Conversation One:

Conversation Two:

If you thought the second one was better, you’re right. Why?

Here’s the Concept:

According to PhD dating researchers, if you want to learn how to get a girlfriend the quickest possible way, here it is:

“Sexualize the encounter to a degree. Being the lover will do more in picking up that girl even possible for the long term, because women “turn on their emotions” after having sex with a guy.”

How do you come across as the lover? Luckily, there’s a simple formula on how to get a girlfriend this way:
Once you’re talking to a girl you like… Flirt with her. That’s it.

It’s that simple.

Flirting

A playful romantic or sexual overture subtly indicating a romantic interest.

The difference between having a girl see you as a friend, and having a girl see you as a potential mate is determined pretty much entirely on whether YOU flirt with her or not.

When done well, a woman will likely see your flirting as both confident and attractive. Most importantly though, it lets her know you LIKE her, and that is REALLY attractive.

According to the researchers: “One of the main reasons you’re attracted to somebody, is if they are attracted to you. It’s an aphrodisiac.”

“One of the main reasons you’re attracted to somebody, is if they are attracted to you. It’s an aphrodisiac.”

The best part is, you can flirt from the moment you meet her.

Another Good Example:

You can also flirt in everyday conversation.

If she tells you:

You can say something like:

Remember to smile and most importantly, be comfortable with whatever her reaction is.

Remember, flirting is playful. If she doesn’t flirt back, just change the subject and continue like nothing happened.

If she DOES flirt back or takes a continued interest in the conversation, that’s a green light to focus on creating a strong emotional connection, having fun, and turning her on, which we show you how to do step by step in the 3 Skills course.

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If you’re wondering how to get a girlfriend, the fastest way is to flirt with her.

Flirting

A playful romantic or sexual overture subtly indicating a romantic interest

Flirting has some unique benefits:

• It lets her know you like her,
• It makes you come across as confident,
• It can turn her on and make her see you as a potential lover,
• And if she DOESN’T like you right now, you can avoid rejection and just change the subject without embarrassment. (Remember, woman can change their minds.)

Don’t let the fear of being rejected keep you from flirting. Women who don’t respond, just give you more time to focus on women who will. You’ll never be free to choose a woman you like until you know which ones LIKE you, so get out there and start flirting!

Next Steps:

Now that you’ve read this article on how to get a girlfriend, you know how important flirting is. The next step is learning to flirt without coming across as creepy or weird. We’ll get you started on that in our next video: “How to flirt” Where you’ll learn flirting fundamentals that will get women to notice you, get them attracted, and maybe even get women chasing YOU.

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Good luck out there!

In my last article “how to talk to girls,” I showed you how to make a woman want to continue talking to you once you’re in a conversation.

In this video I’m going to show you what to say to actually get her attracted to you.
As always I’ll be using our exclusive hidden camera video. This time of a Super dater “Nick.”

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What attracts Women?

When we asked hundreds of women what they find attractive in men, one of the most common answers was…confidence, confidence, confidence. But how to you convey that? The same women gave us a clue with the next thing said….a challenge, a challenge, a challenge!

Being a challenge was VERY attractive to the women we interviewed. Aside from being attractive on its own, being a challenge also shows confidence! Just by being a challenge, you get all the attraction from both being a challenge, plus all the additional attraction from being confident… thrown in for free.

But what exactly does it mean to be a challenge? Some online dating “Gurus” will tell you to be “cocky”, but research shows that women actually HATE arrogant guys.

Other “gurus” will tell you to be funny, but there are plenty of funny good looking guys who can’t seem to attract women.  So if being cocky and being funny aren’t the answer… What CAN you say that will make attracted to you?

Here’s the concept:

To trigger attraction by being a challenge, you need to understand one key concept: Emotional Dominance.

Whats Emotional Dominance? It’s the ability to make her feel better when she’s following your lead than when she’s not.

Emotional Dominance

The ability to make her feel better when she’s following your lead than when she’s not.

OK, so how does it work?

Once you’ve started a conversation and triggered some good emotions, women will often start asking you questions like:

or

The typical guy will answer these in a straight forward way.

or

Now, watch this clip of Superdater Nick answering a woman’s question:

Instead of answering her question factually, he says something silly, which makes her laugh.
When she’s feeling better than she was before your response, but she still has to put more effort to get what she wants that’s what girls mean by a challenge!

And you can use this at practically any point in an interaction.  

Another Good  Example:

If she asks you:

you can aswer…

It’s that simple. Just remember: Be friendly. You’re trying to be a challenge, not a cocky jerk.

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To convey confidence and attract women in a conversation, you don’t have to be cocky, or particularly funny. You can be silly like Nick, give her a compliment, or do pretty much anything that makes her feel BETTER when she’s following your lead than when she’s not. That’s Emotional Dominance.

Emotional Dominance

The ability to make her feel better when she’s following your lead than when she’s not.

Next Steps:

Now that you know this secret of emotional dominance, every once in a while, when a woman asks you a question, instead of trying to impress her with your answer, try triggering her attraction by getting her to see you as a fun “Challenge” instead.

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In my last article “how to meet girls” I showed you how to approach women. Today, I’m going to show you how to talk to girls so you turn those approaches into great conversations that would make her want to get to know you better.

And as usual, I’m going to use our exclusive hidden camera examples to demonstrate the difference between what the regular guys do, and what super daters do.

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What are Superdaters?

Superdaters are guys who aren’t necessarily tall rich or good looking, but who have slept with at least 500 women each. They know how to talk to girls, and we filmed a bunch of them on hidden camera.

While we don’t recommend this lifestyle, fact is, you can learn a lot from watching guys who know a thing or two about how to talk to girls, specially when you’ve vetted their strategies through some of the top PhD researchers in dating psychology, and hundreds of beautiful women.

Can You Attract Her Like A Superdater?

So if you’ve approached that cute girl and said something socially relevant like the one I showed you in our last video “How to meet girls”

Now what? What can you say that will make her interested in continuing to talk to you?

Before I spill the beans, see if you can you spot the difference. Look at what this guy is doing…

Compare that guy to what superdater, Will “H” is doing:

If you said, “this one, is better,” you’re right! But why?

Here’s the concept:

You ready?

Trigger good emotions.

Superdater, Will “H” is triggering good emotions. That may seem pretty obvious, but do you actually know HOW to trigger good emotions in a conversation with a woman, other than by getting her to hold a warm cup of coffee? Here’s how:

To trigger good emotions…

Reward her contributions to the conversation with positive feelings. Following are some examples of what, and what not to do.

A Bad Example

 When she answer this guy’s questions,

…instead of rewarding her with good feelings, he just keeps asking more questions…

Which can often make women feel like they are being interrogated. And that doesn’t feel good.

A Good Example

Now look again at what super dater Will H does differently:

When she responds to his question…
He rewards her with more interest, and playfulness.

And when she responds to that, he responds with even more interest and more playfulness that makes her laugh.

Another Good Example

Here’s another real life HIDDEN CAMERA example:

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While there is nothing wrong with typical “getting to know you” questions, to get her interested in continuing the conversation, you want to trigger good emotions by rewarding her contributions to the conversation with positive feelings.

Trigger good emotions.
Reward her contributions to the conversation with positive feelings.

Even if you’re shy or introverted, if I was going to teach you once secret about how to talk to girls, this would be it.

Next Steps

If you’ve managed to start a conversation like the one I showed you in the last video “How to Meet Girls”, and trigger some good emotions like the one we showed in this video, you’ll learn the most crucial step, how to attract her, in our next video ‘How to talk to girls – part 2’

That’s where the magic really happens.

In the meantime, if you liked this video on how to talk to girls, and want to learn more about how to meet girls and how to get a girlfriend, leave a question in the comments below and we’ll do our best to answer them.

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I’m going to show EXACTLY how to start conversations with the kind of women you want even if you don’t know what to say. And unlike most other guys, I’m actually going to demonstrate what works and what doesn’t with these real hidden camera examples.

How do you start a great conversation instead of hovering around her like a creepy stalker?

Ok, so you see a cute girl you want to talk to. How do you start a great conversation instead of hovering around her like a creepy stalker? Since you might see an attractive woman you want to approach anywhere… I’m going to share a concept with you that works anywhere.

To demonstrate, here are two examples of how to meet girls.

One guy is doing it right, the other is not. Can you spot which is which?

Example 1:

Example 2:

If you guessed Example 2 is better, you’re right!

Do you know why? The concept I’m going to show you about how to meet girls, will hopefully make it obvious. Here it is, you ready?

The Concept:

Social Relevance:

The ability to align yourself with the purpose of a situation

Social relevance. What’s social relevance? It’s the ability to align yourself with the purpose of a situation. It demonstrates to her that you are socially aware enough to understand the basic social situation you are in, and that you’re able to align yourself with the purpose of it. Crazy people can’t do that, which is why what they say seems random and crazy. So the more socially relevant you are, the more sane and normal you appear.

Check out the clips of guys meeting girls again. See how the first guy is saying something random,

but in the second clip, the guy is actually saying something relevant to the situation.

Social relevance helps you make a first impression that is sane and down to earth instead of creepy or weird.

Examples of How to Meet Girls:

• In Bars and Clubs:Where people go to have fun, socialize and have a good time, approaching with a fun and relaxed energy is socially relevant. So for example clinking your drink with hers and saying something like ‘Happy Thursday’ is socially relevant to a bar and club situation. 

• On the street:Where she might not be expecting you to approach her, acknowledging her possible surprise with something like “This may seem random, but”… Let’s her know that you are at least aware of how she might be feeling.

Remember, acknowledging when you aren’t being socially relevant, actually demonstrates social relevance!

Next Steps:

Now you understand why, when you meet women, saying something socially relevant can seem less weird than approaching with a random pickup line or question.

Your next step is making her WANT to talk to you more.

But social relevance isn’t everything. Your next step is making her WANT to talk to you more. In that regard, what you say next, and how you say it, is crucial. So if you’d like to learn what to do next to intrigue and attract her, check out our next video on how to meet girls, ‘How to talk to women’.

If you want to learn more about how to meet girls and how to get a girlfriend, check out the rest of our articles on How to Meet Women. If you have any questions, feel free to post them in the comments. We’ll do our best to answer them.

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To understand why this works you must first understand one of the fundamental fears women have: the fear of meeting a creep or potentially dangerous psycho. This fear can be so pervasive in our culture that some women only date friends of friends, who come pre-approved by people they know.

The good news is single women WANT attractive guys to approach them. How do we know this? We asked hundreds of women and they confessed this to us:

“She’s not rejecting you; she’s rejecting your approach.”

Essentially, if you come across as NOT creepy, and NOT psycho, you’ve already won half the battle. So what’s the secret to disarming her creep/psycho filter?

Step 1: Have Good Energy

Emotions travel from one person to another like Wi-Fi internet signals. If you’ve ever felt embarrassed for a friend or scared/excited by a movie, you’ve probably felt this effect. When you perceive a person as high strung, chilled-out, or angry, you perceive the emotional energy they are broadcasting to the world.

Energy isn’t a fuzzy new age concept, it’s a combination of 3 specific behaviors you can control. But for now, understand that because women are generally more empathetic than men, they can be highly sensitive to the emotional energy you broadcast. This means that broadcasting the right energy is crucial.

The ideal energy to broadcast to a woman you approach is friendly and relaxed. If you know how to broadcast this energy toward the women you meet, they are more likely to feel friendly and relaxed around you, and to perceive you as attractive. If you feel nervous or awkward when approaching a beautiful woman, she’ll be more likely to feel nervous and awkward around you, and see you as unattractive.

If feeling relaxed and friendly around stunningly beautiful women is hard for you, you may want to consider a 3 Skills membership. As a 3 Skills member you’ll get access to in-depth modules with step-by-step video examples of exactly how to convey this ideal energy when talking to women. You’ll also learn techniques supported by decades of research to decrease your nervousness and increase your confidence.

2: Be Socially Relevant

Once you’ve approached a woman in a friendly and relaxed way, what do you say to her? After all, you could still be a creep or psycho, and just happen to be a friendly one. The secret to getting past the second part of her creep/psycho filter is social relevance.

Social relevance involves understanding the purpose of the social situation you are in. Men who don’t understand social relevance often come across as socially awkward. For example, at a book store, reading or talking to someone about an interesting book is socially relevant. Walking up to a woman and saying “You’re so beautiful!”… Not so much. The closer you align your approach with the social purpose of the situation you are in, the more normal and sane you appear.
When you approach a woman, here are some socially relevant things you can say in different environments.

Bars/clubs:

Walk up to the girl(s) in a friendly relaxed way, hold up your drink and say:

The purpose of the situation, in this case a bar/club, is to have fun. People go out to enjoy themselves and possibly meet people. So the reason saying something like this works is because you’ve aligned yourself with the purpose of the situation: Fun.

You can come up with many more yourself. Here are a few more to get you started:

On the street:

Excuse me, I saw you walking there. I thought you were cute so I wanted to say hi. My name is Jack. … I know this is kind of random but if I didn’t come say hello, I’d be kicking myself about it later.

When you’re on the street, it’s not so common to approach a woman directly. So to avoid coming across like you’re trying to sell her something, adding the lines “I know this is random” signals that you are aware of the social norms in this situation.

Here’s another socially relevant approach on the street:

Once you understand social relevance, it’s much easier to determine “what to say” in pretty much any social situation. Once you internalize it, it will seem so obvious; you might even find it difficult to remember a time when you didn’t know this.

So, with friendly and relaxed energy, and social relevance, the next thing you need is to connect with her emotionally, be fun and interesting, and turn her on. If you’re not sure how to do that, you may want to subscribe to The 3 Skills course, a groundbreaking subscription course that helps men master dating best practices. The 3 Skills breaks down live unscripted video interactions step by step. Watch & learn what works, and what women love, from Superdaters (men who have slept with hundreds of women), top dating coaches, and PhD researchers. To learn more, click here.

Oh, and by the way, the third crucial thing you need to do when you approach?

Smile.

It may have just been fate. But it is more likely that you made one of the three most common dating mistakes and sealed your fate without even realizing it. Do you know what they are? Read on to find out.

# 1: Not Being Authentic

Before getting physical, most women like to feel some form of authentic emotional connection. If you felt connected, that is all well and good. What matters more however is that SHE feels it too.
Because most men do not understand HOW to do this, they often try to impress women. Some of these common behaviors include but are not limited to:

• Talking about a car, friends, job, achievement etc. in order to impress her.
• Coming on too strong or talking about all your female conquests.
• Being “friendly” while not expressing your desires for fear she will be offended.
• Telling her you love her and/or how special you think she is too soon.
• Buying gifts, drinks, dinner, or doing her favors hoping she will like you.

Rather than being impressed, women are more likely to find these behaviors repulsive. Why?  They telegraph that you WANT something from her. You know it, and guess what? She knows it too. If she went through the trouble of doing her hair and coming out, she probably wants to get to know YOU, not hear a sales pitch.

Remember, it’s not the length or depth of the connection that makes it authentic, it is the honesty. Whether you are just out for some fun, or looking for a life partner, the quickest way out of this trap is being able to express your feelings and desires in an honest and socially acceptable way.
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#2: Failing to be Fun.

When we say fun, we do not mean you have to be a stand up comic, instead, being fun is creating an experience that is enjoyable for BOTH of you. Unfortunately, many guys fail miserably in this department by doing one or more of these:

• Asking her repeated interview questions: “where are you from”, “whats your name”
• Talking about yourself continuously for more than a minute.
• Listening to her forever
• Talking about serious things in a non serious environment
• Not being able to laugh at yourself.

Do you do any of these? If so, you may be a black hole of dating boredom. To avoid this trap, regardless of what you are talking about, ask yourself this simple question: is the current topic of conversation providing good emotions for both of us? If not, watch out!

WHY are the behaviors above counter productive? If you are curious, we invite you to enroll in The 3 Skills. In addition to WHY, with a 3 Skills membership, you will also learn exactly WHAT to do in each of the above situations to likely INCREASE her attraction. Best of all, you will learn HOW to do it while still being yourself. For now though, remember: the more beautiful a woman is, the more choices she has. Why should she choose a boring guy, when she can have a fun one?

#3: Not Turning Her on Enough.

This is the BIGGIE. When most guys see a sexy woman, they feel turned on. However, they often fail to turn HER on enough. Many guys even make one of the mistakes below and consequently, suffer resistance or outright rejection! Have you done any of these?

• Not touching her
• Touching her the wrong way
• Not maintaining strong eye contact when talking
• Not showing sexually confident body language
• Speaking too quickly
• Being too pushy
• Not escalating
• Not flirting
• Talking about topics things that wont turn her on

Doing any of the above on a date before making your move, means you are more than likely going home alone. It can help to think of men like light switches, that can turn on instantly, and women are more like dimmer knobs, they sometimes take a little more time to turn on.

If from the moment you meet her, you are not mixing verbal and non verbal sexual queues to get her hot beforehand, do not be surprised to find a cold brick wall when you make your big move.

In short, aside from more fundamental issues such as hygiene and basic social skills, not being authentic, failing to be fun, and not turning a woman on enough are the three of the most common dating mistakes men make.

Now that you know what not to do, if you want to learn how to consistently turn your dates into lovers or girlfriends, we invite you to try a 3 Skills membership for just $4.95.
With a 3 Skills membership, you will learn exactly what to do to connect, be fun, “sexualize” your interactions with women, and master best dating practices. Even if you do not become a member today, we hope this information helps you dramatically improve your dating life.

Each interaction is unique. There are no cookie cutter lines.

What works for a tall good looking guy at a club might not work for an average looking older man on the street, or vice versa.

Some men and women may be looking for a soul-mate, others just for some fun tonight.

Applying dating advice you found online in a different or inappropriate context can lead to awkward, humiliating experiences that can not only ruin your chances with one woman, but potentially her entire social circle.

So what’s the solution? We recommend starting with the fundamentals: First, learn to interact with a woman in a way that creates a genuine emotional connection. It’s fun for you AND her, and turns her on. Then, observe a variety of experts in action to learn HOW to apply these skills in different contexts. Once you practice and master one skill, move on to the next until you’ve learned as much as you feel you need.

Online dating advice is often just plain WRONG.

Common guru claims include:

• The simple trick, line, or routine that will attract her/ get her into bed, etc. Let’s not mince words. NONE of these shortcuts work.
• Don’t tell her how you feel until you’ve slept with her, you are the prize. All things considered, women like honest, high status men, not liars or pretenders. You don’t need to hide your emotions or behave in an arrogant way or to attract beautiful women.
• You shouldn’t trust what women say they find attractive, you should listen to the [guru] instead. Let’s think about this for a second. Who’s better at determining what MEN find attractive, Men or Women? Men right? Well it works the other way too. When it comes to attracting women, the best authority in the world isn’t a self proclaimed pickup guru…it’s women.

In fact, if there is anyone who shouldn’t be trusted as an authority on what women find attractive, it’s pickup gurus. Based on research, personal experience, and hundreds of interviews we conducted, most women find pickup artists repulsive.
A good way to protect yourself from misinformation is to identify patterns that are both effective and supported by evidence. Luckily, there are over 40 years of peer reviewed academic research on mating behavior. Current technology also makes it possible to deliver live video examples of the best dating practices, shot on hidden camera and broken down step by step, so you can learn what works, & what doesn’t by observing how women actually respond in real situations

3: Online dating advice is not designed to work!
Well, unless by work you mean separate you from as much of your money as possible. Beware of these common (sneaky) tactics.

• The Up Sell: Giving you a small up front cost for an incomplete product (eBook?) that is actually a long commercial for a far more expensive product or service.
• The Fake Guarantee: Selling, for example, a $40 dollar subscription with a 90 day money back guarantee, and not mentioning that the 90 day guarantee is actually for the $40 dollars, not the total $120 you’ve paid out after ninety days. They keep $80.
• The Secret Subscription: Selling a lower cost $60 product with a free bonus 14 day trial for a $200/mo subscription product. You get your first bill for $160 and when you call to cancel, they tell you your 14 day free trial is over. They keep $100 dollars.
• The Time Suck: Showing you a picture of 20 DVDs to make the product seem more substantial. Only when you receive it do you realize that the DVDs contain unedited and unwatchable seminars and interviews. Of all the scams, this is the worst because unlike your money, you can never get your time back.

The solution

Read the fine print, and more importantly, choose to deal with organizations that are up front about their pricing and product content. Beware of bonuses, and, to protect your time, look for a table of contents or summary of the product that is well organized and easy to follow.

We hope these reasons why online dating advice fails will help you make more informed decisions about the dating advice you encounter online. Like learning any skill, getting the dating life you desire may take some time, and your results and rate of learning may vary. Rather than expecting instant results, think of it as a steady ongoing process of improvement.
And even if you think you’re average looking, older, or shy, don’t let marketing gurus convince you that you need mind tricks or deceptive tactics to attract women. When it comes to relationships, you might be surprised how pragmatic women can be. Honesty and the dating life you desire don’t have to be mutually exclusive.

If you’re serious about achieving the dating life you desire, we invite you to try The 3 Skills, a groundbreaking course that helps men master dating best practices by breaking down live unscripted video interactions step by step. The course includes interviews with top PhD researchers in mate selection explaining what actually works, followed by LIVE hidden camera video of Superdaters and top dating coaches applying the concepts with real women, Step by Step. These interactions are not re-enactments set up in a studio. They are real.

The 3 Skills is a subscription course that costs $75.00 per month for up to 9 months. That’s $18.75 bucks a week, or about the cost of a cup of coffee per day, & you may cancel at anytime once you feel like you’ve learned enough.

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