Ever go on a date with a woman you really want, but for some reason the sparks just do not fly? After an awkward goodbye, maybe you wander home alone, replaying everything over and over again in your head, wondering, “what went wrong?”. If you feel frustrated, imagine how she felt! She got dressed, and probably even wore her nice underwear “just in case.” Unfortunately… nothing happened! Why?
It may have just been fate. But it is more likely that you made one of the three most common dating mistakes and sealed your fate without even realizing it. Do you know what they are? Read on to find out.
# 1: Not Being Authentic
Before getting physical, most women like to feel some form of authentic emotional connection. If you felt connected, that is all well and good. What matters more however is that SHE feels it too.
Because most men do not understand HOW to do this, they often try to impress women. Some of these common behaviors include but are not limited to:
- Talking about a car, friends, job, achievement etc. in order to impress her.
- Coming on too strong or talking about all your female conquests.
- Being “friendly” while not expressing your desires for fear she will be offended.
- Telling her you love her and/or how special you think she is too soon.
- Buying gifts, drinks, dinner, or doing her favors hoping she will like you.
Rather than being impressed, women are more likely to find these behaviors repulsive. Why? They telegraph that you WANT something from her. You know it, and guess what? She knows it too. If she went through the trouble of doing her hair and coming out, she probably wants to get to know YOU, not hear a sales pitch.
Remember, it’s not the length or depth of the connection that makes it authentic, it is the honesty. Whether you are just out for some fun, or looking for a life partner, the quickest way out of this trap is being able to express your feelings and desires in an honest and socially acceptable way.
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#2: Failing to be Fun.
When we say fun, we do not mean you have to be a stand up comic, instead, being fun is creating an experience that is enjoyable for BOTH of you. Unfortunately, many guys fail miserably in this department by doing one or more of these:
- Asking her repeated interview questions: “where are you from”, “whats your name”
- Talking about yourself continuously for more than a minute.
- Listening to her forever
- Talking about serious things in a non serious environment
- Not being able to laugh at yourself.
Do you do any of these? If so, you may be a black hole of dating boredom. To avoid this trap, regardless of what you are talking about, ask yourself this simple question: is the current topic of conversation providing good emotions for both of us? If not, watch out!
WHY are the behaviors above counter productive? If you are curious, we invite you to enroll in The 3 Skills. In addition to WHY, with a 3 Skills membership, you will also learn exactly WHAT to do in each of the above situations to likely INCREASE her attraction. Best of all, you will learn HOW to do it while still being yourself. For now though, remember: the more beautiful a woman is, the more choices she has. Why should she choose a boring guy, when she can have a fun one?
#3: Not Turning Her on Enough.
This is the BIGGIE. When most guys see a sexy woman, they feel turned on. However, they often fail to turn HER on enough. Many guys even make one of the mistakes below and consequently, suffer resistance or outright rejection! Have you done any of these?
- Not touching her
- Touching her the wrong way
- Not maintaining strong eye contact when talking
- Not showing sexually confident body language
- Speaking too quickly
- Being too pushy
- Not escalating
- Not flirting
- Talking about topics things that wont turn her on
Doing any of the above on a date before making your move, means you are more than likely going home alone. It can help to think of men like light switches, that can turn on instantly, and women are more like dimmer knobs, they sometimes take a little more time to turn on.
If from the moment you meet her, you are not mixing verbal and non verbal sexual queues to get her hot beforehand, do not be surprised to find a cold brick wall when you make your big move.
In short, aside from more fundamental issues such as hygiene and basic social skills, not being authentic, failing to be fun, and not turning a woman on enough are the three of the most common dating mistakes men make.
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With a 3 Skills membership, you will learn exactly what to do to connect, be fun, “sexualize” your interactions with women, and master best dating practices. Even if you do not become a member today, we hope this information helps you dramatically improve your dating life.